How can marriage last longer?

When men and women enter the palace of marriage, they all hope to live together and hand in hand for a lifetime, but it is not easy to achieve this goal. Anything in pairs has its place of interlocking and harmony, including people. Tolstoy once said that happy marriages are similar, but unfortunate marriages have their own unfortunate points. So we all envy those couples who are still holding hands in their old age. But what's the secret of their lasting love?

1.    Mutual Values and Complementary Characters

Good personality complementary relationship, common interests and hobbies, and well-matched outlook on life and values are the basis for the beginning of love between two people, but they are also important factors for two people to maintain their marriage for a long time. Without compatible values or complementary personalities, it is easy to argue and quarrel over trivial matters, which will make two people tired of marriage life.

2. Frequent intimate behavior

British research has found that couples who sleep less than an inch apart are more happy in marriage and more satisfied with sex. Similarly, it is important to say "I love you" and "thank you" often in marriage. Expressing gratitude to each other is of great benefit to the promotion of marriage. The more couples kiss, the more satisfied they are with their marriage. So, when you go out to work or before you go to sleep, give your lover a deep kiss.

3. Have a common circle of communication

If couples have a common social circle, they will have common topics and values, and the relationship will be more stable. So you might as well take your wife, make an appointment with your friend and her wife, and go out to dinner together. It will have unexpected benefits.

4. Give each other enough private space and allow each other to keep his or her secret.

Every socialized person has their own social circle, circle of friends and classmates outside of marriage. Therefore, both parties in marriage should respect each other, leave enough private space for each other, and allow each other to maintain their secrets and privacy. If there is no partner's permission, it's better not to check her cell phone, text messages and other privacy. If you want each other to go on forever, respect each other's privacy.

5. Appropriate tolerance, compromise and concession are the most important secrets for a long marriage.

In a long-term relationship, the couple will inevitably have advantages and disadvantages, will inevitably make mistakes. In the face of each other's mistakes, the couple should be tolerant, compromise and concession. Even if you quarrel 10 million times, the most important thing is to make peace after the quarrel, to forget and to tolerate and compromise with each other. Only in this way can a marriage last long, otherwise it is difficult to last long.

6. Learn to forget the many negative aspects of marital life, look at each other's strengths optimistically, learn from each other's strengths, and learn from each other's weaknesses. Only in this way can marital life get better and better.

Everyone will bring their own strengths and weaknesses because of the different character. Few people are perfect.

In a socialized marriage, there will always be such shortcomings and regrets, and there will be many unsatisfactory places. Optimistic people will always look for their own advantages and benefits in a lot of bad aspects. In daily life, they look more optimistically at each other's shortcomings. The best thing between husband and wife is to complement each other's strengths and weaknesses and learn from each other's strengths to complement each other's weaknesses. Only in this way, your marriage life will be more taste and more perfect.

7. Don't use the word "divorce" lightly.

Every marriage will encounter a variety of contradictions, will dispute thousands of times caused by different opinions. some people is cold war, and some people are fighting openly scold, and even, some people often mention the word "divorce" to intimidate the other half, as a threat to the other side's killer mace.

Marriage disputes caused by different opinions are very common problems. As a couple, it's better to make an agreement. No matter how angry or quarrel, we can't break up and divorce. The proposal of divorce is very hurtful. Perhaps, your marriage will come to an end in anger. Are you really going to divorce for one breath?

8. Maintain the independence of both sides.

In marriage, you blend with each other, but more importantly, you are two independent individuals, so keeping each other spiritually and materially independent will make your couple's life more colorful, more romantic and more interesting.

9. Regular sex is an indispensable lubricant for marital intimacy.

Regular sexual life helps to maintain the lasting intimacy between husband and wife, make them more intimate, and breed the good feeling of the relationship between husband and wife, so as to make the relationship stronger. Sex also makes couples happy individually. Therefore, when living at home, regular sexual intercourse is definitely the goal of couples.