Many people have questions about what sex frequency is appropriate between partners. But I want to say, don't get too entangled with this number, what matters is the communication between partners. Different partners have different needs, and some people can have sex every day. But some people don't affect their intimacy even if they have sex once a month.
Sex has a positive impact on human physiology and psychology. It can help people release pressure and anxiety and get happy mood. People can also enhance their self-esteem and self-worth in sex, making their partners more satisfied with their relationship and life. With the opening of the concept of sex and the popularity of social networks, the conditions for people to have sex are becoming more and more convenient. But young Americans seem to have less sex than their parents. At the same age of 20-24, 15% of those born in 1990-1994 had never had a sexual partner. The number of people born between 1965 and 1969 was only 6%. According to David Schnarch (2011), the average frequency of partner sex is lower than people think. Only 26% of partners have sex once a week. Most partners (67%) have sex once or twice a month. Some people have sex several times a year, and some even have no sex for a whole year. Only 7% of couples have sex several times a week.
So what are the important factors that affect the frequency of sexual intercourse between partners?
1. The more equal the relationship, the higher the frequency of sexual intercourse.
Studies have shown that the number of sexual intercourses between partners is linearly related to the degree to which they perform housework together. The higher the degree of housework they do together, the more times they have sex and the higher their satisfaction. Stephanie Coontz, a historian and family researcher, argues that this is because people's perceptions of relationships have changed and equality has become sexier. People no longer think that husband and wife should divide their work and cooperate, but pay more attention to their common interests and hobbies.
2. Sex frequency is related to attachment type
"Avoiding intimacy" and "anxiety abandonment" are two dimensions used to distinguish attachment types. The study found that the more anxious a person is to be abandoned, the more often TA and partner have sex. First, they use the number of times they have sex to measure how much they love each other. They think that the more times they have sex, the deeper their partner loves them. So, they tend to have more sex with their partners to get affirmation of being loved. Second, when they feel uncomfortable in the relationship and are afraid of being abandoned, they will improve their intimacy by pleasing their partners through sex.
3. Altruistic people have more sex
The study found that the more altruistic a person was, the more sexual intercourse he had with his partner, the more likely he was to be favored when dating others, and the more sexual partners he had. It is generally believed that if a person is very generous, then he must have a lot of resources, so he is very attractive.
4. The frequency of sexual intercourse is related to the personality traits of the wife.
There is a significant linear relationship between the number of times a couple has sex and the personality traits of their wives. The more open and agreeable a wife is, the more sexual intercourse she has. Because a person's openness is higher, it means that he may be more creative, curious and willing to contact new information. The more agreeable she is, the more willing she is to cooperate and communicate with others.
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