Work, school, and children may all affect your relationship, but in comparison, the quality of your sex life is often the key to the success or failure of a relationship. In fact, you don't need to completely change everything in your life to have your ideal sex life. As long as couples communicate smoothly and have fun, it is not difficult to have a good sex life.
Method 1:
Add fun
Do something different
The number one reason why sex has become dull is that it remains unchanged. Maybe you used to say that you only had sex in the morning, or you only had sex in your free time when you weren't going to work or school or taking care of your children. So now, you can try to make love in different ways at different times, in different places.
Send a text message to your lover and ask him/her to come over right away, but don't say anything. When he/she comes over, just wait in bed.
Add tension. You can have sex in the bathroom, or you can sneak into a place to have sex between classes.
Some people who have been in love for a long time will try to regain the feeling of first love when they encounter feelings on the rocks. You can reach the same bar at different times and pretend that neither of you know each other. Then, like the first time, pretend that you don’t know anything about the other person’s sexual preferences and start talking.
Flirting with your lover. Send a colorful text message to your spouse when he/she is at work, describing in detail what you want to do later, or whisper to him/her in public. Increasing sexual tension is a good way to improve your sex life, because you have a desire for sex in your heart, and you will be more excited when you have sex.
Some people are very slow. Don't judge your lover by your own situation. You have to understand your lover's tendency in this regard, and then try to stimulate his/her desire.
Spend more time on foreplay
Sometimes making love becomes like completing a task. This is because you make the transition from action one to action two to action three so fast that you are acting like a script. So, slow down the pace. If it usually takes only a few minutes for action two, then spend 20 minutes now; of course, you can also disrupt the sequence of these actions. Rewrite your "script" and enjoy the process delicately and slowly.
Massage each other before making love, and before getting into the topic, both parties must spend a certain amount of time groping each other's body. The longer the caressing time, the better. You can even spare a whole night, put on some soft music, and slowly enjoy your love journey.
Try some weird tricks
Don't do what you don't want to do, but if you both agree to use some sex toys, handcuffs, sex clothes, etc., then you might as well give it a try. As long as your relationship still focuses on honesty and communication, it is understandable to try new tricks in your sex life.
Cosplay. You two can wear special clothes and call each other by different names. As long as you both don't mind, this kind of sex life can be a sexy and interesting way.
Put on a blindfold. This will make your attention all on the sense of touch. If both parties agree, you can also try this blindfolded way of making love.
You will find many magazines, videos and books in the library that teach sex skills, posture, and add interest. Find this Kama Sutra to learn new tricks.
Method 2:
Talk with lover
Tell your lover your preference. The safest, wisest, and easiest way to improve your sex life is to frankly tell your lover what you need, tell them what you like and what you don’t like, and talk about your bottom line and expectations in terms of sex. This kind of conversation is good for improving your sex life. Very helpful.
If you find it a bit awkward to talk in person, you can write to each other, or talk after turning off the lights at night.
Conversation can build trust and intimacy. A sudden attack may want to be more sexy, but talking in advance can help avoid embarrassment and re-establish the necessary sense of trust in sex. Don't try new tricks without asking for permission. Be sure to talk first.
Talk to be specific
When it comes to sex, people become very shy and it is difficult to be specific. In fact, your lover can understand more clearly by speaking directly.
So, instead of saying "I think our sex life is not enough" or "I want something different", it is better to tell the other person that you enjoy being with him/her very much, and you want to be more intimate between you , And then talk about what you want to do, or what you want to change.
Talk while having sex
It is usually not easy to know if what you are doing is to say what the other person meant, and when your lover refuses to communicate, the situation becomes more rigid. Therefore, when making love, you can directly tell your lover that you like being touched this way, and then let the other party also tell you what he/she likes. In a word, ask more questions and answer the other party's questions more often.
Use a correct tone sparingly and talk in an encouraging tone. In fact, this is not complicated. You only need to ask the other person "Does this feel good?" or "Do you like this?" If you don't like it, you have to tell the other person how you actually like it. If you want to slow down, tell the other person to slow down and be gentle.
Demonstrate on the other person’s hand or finger what you want the other person to do to your sensitive parts. Tell the person "I like this." In this way, the lover can understand your needs, and at the same time can add some material to the foreplay. Ask the other person to tell you what he/she expects you to do in the same way.
Shared fantasies
Tell the other person about the things you have had sexual desires. If you find it difficult to speak, you can also write them down. If a sex scene appears on TV or in a magazine, you can tentatively ask: "What do you think?" Then communicate frankly and openly.
The brain is the most sexually sensitive organ. But talking about fantasies in your brain does not mean that you have to implement them, but through communication, you can further build trust. At the same time, communicative fantasies also open the door to explore each other's sexual preferences, so that your sex life can be maintained. Fresh and interesting.
Although there are very unhealthy content in "Cosmo" and "Maxim" magazines, they are good sources of conversation to open up the topic, and they may also lead the topic in a healthy and meaningful direction. You can flip through these magazines in the bookstore, do some of the quizzes above, and then go back and ask your lover’s opinion. For example, you can say: "Do you think this test result fits your situation?" or "Men really Do you like that?"
Method 3:
Take time to increase intimacy
Travel together
Even a short one-week trip is great for relaxation. Sometimes, work, school, and children can become a great obstacle to enjoying sex.
No money to travel? You can also rest at home. Turn off your computer, cell phone, and TV, and do something "meaningful".
Dominant life
If you have been passive in your sex life, try to change it and let you take the lead. If you are always active, talk to your lover and say that you don't want to look like a person who only cares about sensuality in your relationship. In short, no matter what the problem is, don't hide it, and make sure that both parties are satisfied with the progress of the relationship.
Write down the date of sex on the calendar. If you find that your sex life is really pitiful, if necessary, make a plan for yourself. You may think this is an exaggeration, but if you two are always "too busy", making a plan can also be a good way to ensure a normal sex life.
The intimacy of the soul is as important as the intimacy of the body. Sex life is not entirely as simple as rolling the sheets. If you do not have a sense of intimacy in your relationship, and if you rarely spend time getting to know each other, then your sex life and your entire relationship will suffer. Therefore, be sure to spend time communicating with your lover and company with each other.
Create romance. Send flowers to your
girlfriend, and go out with your boyfriend to do something he is passionate
about. Expressing understanding and consideration for each other is the best
way to show love, and it is also the best way to arouse the other person’s
desires
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